Once there were two trees
Both were beautiful and strong with light green leaves
Both were rooted into the earth
The first tree was rigid and unmovable
The second tree was bendable and pliable
One night an April windstorm came
The first tree dug its roots deeper into the ground and tightened its trunk
He believed that if he held himself strong and unmovable, the pain and cold of the wind would not touch him
He could disappear into his trunk and be so strong that no wind could hurt him or make him cold
The second tree was fluid
He danced in the wind
He swayed with each gust and allowed the wind to blow and tickle all of his leaves
He knew that if he just played with the storm, soon the morning sun would break through
In the morning, the first tree was broken at the trunk and lay on the ground, defeated
The second tree remained, tall and happy and enjoyed the sun warming his light green leaves
Emotions are both the storms and sunny clear days of our life. If we dance with our emotions and allow them to flow through us, we get to experience all the wonderful emotions there are – the sunny clear days, gloomy gray days, windy days, stormy days – all the rich feelings of life.
If we are rigid and make strict rules and absolutes for our feelings, or bury them deep, or think that putting up a wall will protect us, then when the storms of emotions come, they break us.
Many people are so afraid of the emotions and what they might feel that they take medication to stop themselves from feeling anything at all. In many relationships, families, communities, and cultures the expression of emotion is looked down upon as something to be avoided, something bad, a form of weakness. Having and showing emotion makes people feel vulnerable. If the expression of emotion is bad, then maybe we shouldn’t even feel them.
To protect ourselves we sometimes make absolutes – never, always, forever, won’t, don’t, can’t … “I’m never going to feel again!” “I’m never going to love again!” “I’ll never be angry again!” “No one will see me mad,” etc. We try and lock our feelings away. We make ourselves wrong when we show emotion. “I’m such an idiot”, “I’m so weak.”
Does any of this sound familiar?
Feelings used to control my life. I had trauma from childhood, trauma from motherhood, trauma from my husband’s ex-wife, trauma from our step-daughter – trauma, trauma, trauma. If someone hurt me I would cut them off and never talk to them again, they became dead to me. I felt like I was in a constant karate match, on guard for the possibility of hurt and pain before it happened so that I could jump out of the way and not feel it. I was in a constant state of stress trying to stay away from hurt. People would ask me what I wanted out of life and I would say, “no more pain.” I closed myself off from all relationships, I barely left the house, barely interacted with people, all in the hope of being able to control the pain in my life.
And then all of the emotions began to manifest themselves through my body. What I wouldn’t let myself feel began to leak. I felt sick all the time and I was tired. I felt ‘bad’ all the time, gross, icky. I was depressed. How can you feel happy when your body is weighing you down with health issues?
What stopped my emotional downward spiral?
In a word: Essential Oils. They saved my life. I resisted using them for months, but finally decided to give one other product a shot. How could it hurt? I was already feeling miserable.
Within a month of using essential oils, not only did I breathe more clearly, but my bouts of sadness diminished. I felt like there was a light at the end of the tunnel and I could see the possibility of healing myself and experiencing joy. What a shock that was to me, that there was an actual light at the end of that emotionally dark tunnel. It has been quite the journey for me but I hope that the knowledge I have gained on my journey will enlighten your soul and mind.
What I realized is that I misunderstood emotion. Emotions are the body’s way of saying that either something is wrong or that something is right. Something is making me feel happy, content, peaceful, relaxed, aware – or something is making me feel uneasy, nervous, angry, scared, sad, helpless. Emotions aren’t good or bad – they just are. I think we’ve forgotten that!
Emotions are a part of our physical experience and when we try to shut them down in our mind or through medication, the pain only gets bigger underneath. Feelings do not go away, if you will not express them and let them out, they will find another form of expression. This is usually through your body – aches, pains, illness, sadness, unease, depression, anxiety, fear, guilt, or worry, to name a few.
If you let your body tell you what it needs, if you will listen and respond, you can also attract circumstances that will allow you to clear those negative emotions.
Check this out. Did you know that you have the power to feel:
Free Light Joy
Happiness Power Loved
Confident Peaceful Strong
Just like we exercise and stretch our physical muscles to keep them strong and flexible, so too we need to exercise and stretch our emotional (muscles).
So how do we free ourselves of our own emotional straight-jackets? How do we release the hidden or trapped emotions inside ourselves? Great question! Let me show you!!
The following tools have elicited powerful results for me personally and for all of my clients. Let’s explore the 7 Key Ingredients to Blissful Emotional Balance!
- Essential Oils
- Emotional clearing
- Self Care
- Listening to Your Heart
- Expressing Your Tone
Essential Oils have unique properties that connect us to different emotions in our bodies. Essential oils are the medicine cabinet of plants. Their goal is to nourish the plant with nutrients to keep it in Homeostasis. When other living beings use Essential Oils they get the benefit in their bodies of the Essential Oils mission – to provide balance. This is extremely powerful with emotions. Intense emotions regulate simply by drawing the essential oil in through your nostrils. Within seconds of smelling the oil you will feel equilibrium in your emotions. They do not discard your feelings nor are they a happy drug to take them away, but they do work with the body to create feelings of peace.
Effective ways to use Essential Oils
Essential Oils heal the physical body which then allows the emotional body to release what has been trapped inside. When the physical body gets the nutrients it needs, the natural self healing functions of the body can reign. A balanced body supports balanced emotions.
CPTG Essential Oils support a person in balancing their emotions and allowing their emotions to flow through them. Essential oils that are pure, their energy vibrates at a high frequency. The The oils support a person in resonating at that frequency as well. What I love most about essential oils is that they have allowed me to avoid being controlled by my negative feelings, giving me the power to manage – that means work with in a constructive way – all of my emotions. No longer do my emotions stop me from enjoying and accomplishing what I desire in my life!!
Oils I use for Balancing Emotions
Breath gives us life. In the Bible it talks about God breathing into the nostrils of man to give him the breath of life. Our breath is the life-spring for our body, our emotions and our soul. Our breath can calm us or agitate us, bring us peace or have us lose consciousness. Breath is a powerful tool for helping us to illicit in ourselves the emotions we want, and allow emotions to flow through us without getting stuck. Our goal is to use breath to support us in feeling balanced with our emotions.
Try this simple exercise right now! Breathe in slowly for 4 counts and the breathe out slowly for 5 counts. Do this 3 times in a row. Breathe in, breathe out (slowly!) Do you feel yourself becoming more relaxed, grounded and centered with every breath? Do you feel yourself become physically and mentally more calm? Look how easy that is!
3 Breaths for Life > Coming Soon “Change Your Breath, Change Your Life” By Julie Reed
Journaling out my feelings has been such a support for me. Instead of letting them be pushed down to fester and decay inside of me, I get them out on paper! This journal is not for anyone else, or to ever show anyone else. It is a journal to write out all of your trapped emotions. If you need to get a journal that has a lock on it to ensure no one else reads it, do that! Burning or ripping up what you write is also very cleansing.
Here’s what you do:
1. Get a journal (does not need to be fancy, can be a little notebook from your grocery store)
2. Set aside 5-20 minutes
3. Breathe in an essential oil that is tied to the emotion you want to clear (optional, but I highly suggest it!)
4. Start writing. You can start with …..I am writing in this journal to let out my emotions, I am writing and writing…. Do not lift your pen up until you are done. (I highly suggest not using a computer, but actually writing with your hand and your pen.)
5. Let it out. No one is going to read this, so be honest and as ugly as you need to be to get those feelings out of you. (If you are seriously worried about someone reading it, then burn it! (be safe, find a safe place to burn.))
6. When you are finished, finish it up with a cleansing oil like Peppermint
Emotional Healing Exercise
There are two kinds of emotions that plague people today.( I am not talking about your everyday emotions, the small ups and downs of life; I am talking about the big guns, the deep-seated emotions, the grand daddy’s: depression, anxiety, anger, fear, helplessness, hopelessness.) These emotions are formed by beliefs that a person has made up in reaction to trauma, stress, or abuse. Many times we hold on to these feelings for dear life, afraid to let go. Some of these are emotions that have been passed down through generations, from family to family. Some of these emotions come from mistakes we’ve made, and sometimes we just don’t know where they’ve come from!
Think about the emotions that are plaguing you. Is it something that plagues your parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts or uncles? Emotions can be imprinted on a person’s soul/body when they are born. Emotions can be carried down through your generational line.
For example, depression is in my family line. It didn’t seem to matter how much work I did on my head and on my thoughts, the depression was always there dragging me down. People would tell me to think positively, and it seemed that no matter what I did there were some emotions that were just always there ready to bring me down, tear me down and destroy me. When I started clearing my generational emotions through my energy clearing techniques, I felt free for the first time. I didn’t quite believe it would work untill the first time I experienced a session and experienced lasting freedom! I challenge you to take the first steps to free yourself from emotions you know the source of, emotions you don’t know the source of, from anything that has been holding you down for years, and from any generational emotions that have plagued your family – all through my energy clearing session!
I remember the time in my life when I felt so overwhelmed. It felt like the world was crashing down on me. I couldn’t keep up with all the things I had to do. Everything was a should, my whole day was filled up with shoulds. I was exhausted from marriage and children and business and church, the list went on and on. My biggest wish was for the world to stop turning so that I could take a break from it all for awhile. I was getting coaching from an amazing coach, Tiffany Petersen, who told me that what I needed to focus on was self-care. I thought….what???
I spend hours grooming, cleaning myself, making myself presentable, eating healthy foods, exercising and reading uplifting and inspiring books for personal development. A big chunk of time in my day was self-care, or so I thought.
She gently taught me that personal development activities are not self-care. I needed to start filling my tank with activities that helped me to feel the love I had for myself.
Self care has to do with feeding and nurturing your soul. Listening to heart and then following what your heart tells you you need. The cool thing is that your self care needs are unique to you. Everyone has different activities that fill their soul. A good clue for me to know if it’s a great self-care activity for me is when I give a blissful sigh just thinking about doing the activity.
Here are some examples of things that can feed your soul and then below I will teach you how to figure out what you personally need.
Taking a bath Reading a frivolous book Meditating
Petting your animals Watering your plants Planting flowers
Singing Writing Dancing Wrapping yourself in a cushy blanket
Taking a nap Laying on your bed in fetal position Sunbathing
Looking up at the stars Praying Cooking Spending time with friends
Getting your hair done Getting your nails done Spa Day
There’s no wrong way for self care. It is really personal to what you desire in your heart to take care of yourself.
Listen to Your Heart
Did you know that your heart speaks? We all know our heart speaks through emotions, but did you know that you can learn to hear the voice of your heart? We do this through asking and being still. How can you know what you want or what you need? Listen, in the stillness you heart speaks
Try this exercise right now:
Find a quiet place.
Sit up tall
Put your head down toward your heart
Ask “What does (put in your name) want to do today?”
Be still and quiet until your heart tells you what you want
Then go do what your heart told you. Honor yourself.
In the beginning I was so out of practice listening to myself and honoring myself that I had to schedule time to listen to my heart and then do it what my heart told me. When I tried to listen to myself I would think of all the things I had to do, or should do. I didn’t want to ‘waste my time’ doing something frivolous. Scheduling a time to listen to your heart supports you in making taking care of yourself a reality. It also helps you to not feel overwhelmed doing the other things you have to do in your day. You start to trust yourself that you will listen and take care of yourself.
Start taking care of yourself today. A big part of feelings of fear & lack of trust is tied to you not taking care of yourself. It’s time to re-acquaint yourself with an old friend – you! As you listen and take care of yourself you will find that fear, anger, anxiety, and frustration will dissolve away from you. The feeling of overwhelm will be a thing of your past. You will have the ability to trust others more because you will be able to trust yourself.
Expressing Your Tone
Our emotions need some form of expression. As I said earlier, if we do not let our emotions express, they will find a way through our body and illness. Sometimes, there are no words to express and release what we are feeling. When I have these moments the thing that helps me the most is expressing my feelings through a sound sung out loud. (You do not need to be a singer to do this.) Singing a tone allows you to express the emotions that are stuck inside you – but not in words you can find – and it balances your energetic meridians. You will feel a release of feelings after doing this and a balanced energetic field.
One day I was driving to my friends house and I began to feel a deep sorrow, like I wanted to cry. Instead of pulling over and wailing, I took a deep breath, opened my mouth and let out a very low, guttural “ah” tone. I did this five times in a row. By the time I go to my friends house I felt that I had released all the sorrow from my body and I was free!
Take in a deep breath
Open your mouth
Let out a tone on an “ah” (If you are musical, realize that the pitch you choose doesn’t matter in the sense of music, only in the sense that pitch allows you to release what is inside you. You will feel it.)
Repeat this as many times as needed (You can change pitch if you feel it didn’t reach the emotion.)
Notice how your body feels after expressing your feelings through tone
Finding Your Tone by Julie Reed Coming Soon!
Use these 7 techniques consistently and you will find blissful emotional balance. Realize that the foods you eat also have a direct correlation to the emotions you feel and how easy or difficult it is for you to balance your emotional body. A Physical Body out of alignment makes for an Emotional Body out of Alignment. Finding emotional balance can be difficult when you don’t know what is keeping you out of balance. Emotions that have a life of their own leave people feeling powerless. I would love to help you uncover your blocked emotions and clear them easily in a session. You can feel free from the chains that bind you. Schedule SimplyHealed Session Today!!
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